August 3, 2022 | By Warwick Merry

Have you noticed that some of the networking at events is a bit so-so? That we have done it so much, we are almost bored with our own responses? It is time to shift out of the everyday using the power of language, and in the process become more memorable and have a greater impact.

A few years ago, I chose to change my standard response. When networking – or even in shops or getting petrol – people nearly always ask, “How are you today?” Like many others, I would respond with, “I’m fine. How are you?”

It was ritualistic, neither of us really cared and most people don’t realise that FINE stands for F*%ked Up, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional.

So, I made the decision to change. For many years now, when people ask, “How are you?” I respond with, “I’m delightful!”

People literally stop in their tracks. I have broken the ritual. At a recent event the person I met burst out laughing and said, “Thank you. I needed that!”

At the events I host, it makes me more memorable to the delegates, it adds a sense of energy and fun. Often it also allows me to have more energy than I really feel.

I’m not saying everyone should respond with “I’m delightful”. What I am saying is, choose your response. Go for something different. Go for something that is aligned with you. Stand out. Share a bit of fun. Share some of who you really are.

So no matter if you are delightful, faaaaantastic (as one of my mentors, Winston Marsh, always says), fired up, content, ruminating, spectacular, full of fabulosity, happy as, or world-conquering, the world will be a better place for knowing it.

Next time you are networking and someone asks, “How are you?” What considered response will you give?

For the record, I’m delightful!

Warwick Merry is a Certified Speaking Professional, dual Certified Virtual Presenter, recipient of the 2021 Global Outstanding Intrapreneur award, the 2022 Breakthrough Speaker Award and 2022 Nevin Award for service to the speaking industry. For over 20 years he has been hosting and producing online, hybrid and in-person events. He is the host of the Making Events Awesome livestream and Facebook group.